Please, Stop Complaining

I hate it when people bitch about how terrible their life is and you feel like you’re stuck there, unable to get out of such a conversation. You know, the people who complain and complain and complain until they can’t complain any more, but they still keep complaining. Hell, if I complained even one fifth as much as these people do, then I would be complaining once every sixteen seconds. What do you say to these people? “Stop complaining, you’re dragging me down with you!”?? I call these people energy vampires. You could be in a great mood, a wonderful state of mind, until these people come across and try to suck the good feeling right from underneath you.

I don’t like to talk to these sorts of people, the people who are perpetually negative, all their emotions swirling in what they don’t have or what they need to get, and how depressed they will be if they don’t have whatever they think they need. If you have ever had a conversation with these sorts of people, then you know exactly what I am talking about. The people who don’t even listen to anything you have to say, and would rather have something to complain about than have a meaningful conversation. The people who probably secretly like their suffering, as it at least gives them something to talk about, something to take up your time from meaningful work. That’s just my theory on that, because we only attract what we want, so if your life isn’t what you want it to be, it actuallly is.

I have seen people complain about things I don’t even give a second thought. I find it very trivial when it comes to complaining. I guess I have a slightly different perspective being a cancer survivor and all, having been through a horrific experience like that. But I am grateful for the experience and I did not complain much. When I would hear people complain about things that were so unimportant, like they didn’t make the soccer team or they scraped their leg or whatever, I would think that if they knew what some people go through in everyday life around the world and don’t complain at all, then they might see that they have nothing, absolutely nothing, to complain about.

One reason why I hate complainers is because complaining about your problems gets you nowhere except deeper into depression or frustration. Why don’t you try and change the situation if it is so bad? I’ll tell you why. Because then you’d have nothing to complain about. And if that happens, you’ll most likely have nothing to talk about. Good. At least then I won’t have to listen to your negative comments about how horrible your life is. If you are one of these people who complains constantly, I encourage you to go to a hospital to see the dying patients and complain to them about your backache or sore neck. It is all about perspective. That is what helps me not complain whatsoever. Whatever is happening, it shall pass.

If you look at your current situation and think to yourself, “What am I going to care about this situation I am in right now ten years from now?” Like if you’re in debt, and it is making you anxious, think about how trivial it will seem ten years from now, in your ideal life, your ideal way of living, where all your problems are solved, except for what to do with all the money you have or whatever else you desire. If your life sucks now, you have the power to change that, by making positive changes in your life, not by dwelling on the negatives, like how you can’t do this, or didn’t get that or whatever. I mean, some days I wake up and don’t want to get out of bed, but I do because I know there is a potential to do better, to live a better life, rather than lie down and just think about how tired I am or whatever else is going on with me. Life is a journey, and to live life to the fullest, you have to be grateful for the good, the bad, and the other.

Know that you have power in every present moment and that you have the power to make each of these moments better than the previous. I have used this numerous times to better any situation. If you are having a rough day, take some time to laugh about it like you would laugh about it five years from now looking back. I remember working in the supermarket and it was Fourth of July weekend and all the tourists were in Myrtle Beach at my store shopping like maniacs. It was very intense, and at one point, I just burst out laughing. And I laughed and laughed and laughed just like I would laugh about it now at how ridiculous the situation was. I know I must have looked like a crazy person, but what did I care? I was happy at that moment and took that happiness throughout the rest of the day, unruffled by all the stress looming around me. I just wish everyone had such a cynical sense of humor.

The main message here is to start being grateful for every experience, every moment you exist, because we all know how fast your existence can come to a close. So no matter how bad things are, at least you’re still here, and at least you have the power to make the next moment better. Instead of dwelling on misery, start creating positive fulfillment.

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7 thoughts on “Please, Stop Complaining

  1. Pingback: Please, Stop Complaining « Comedy and Humor Blog

  2. I referred to you in a public speech I made earlier this evening. To protect your privacy, I didn’t use your name. I gave an inspirational speech and explained how a man who survived brain cancer was making great strides in learning what reasons he has to feel grateful where he is. I brought up the Chuck Norris story I relayed to you in a previous response to one of your blogs. I expanded by discussing how an understanding of health and knowledge of illness can become opportunities to learn to love yourself and others. I also explored how and why some people indulge in moderation, focusing on where they are not and then learn to break this destructive habit. Kudos to your progress. You’ve really come a long way!

  3. i would like to say thank you to the person who wrote the article about complaining. i unfortunately am a huge complainer. i would like to explain myself but in doing so i would be complaining. this article helped me see what an annoying person i could truly be, just because of my complaining. i agree with the fact that i would have nothing to talk about if i was not complaining about something. i never realized how my complaining affected other people and for that i am sorry. i don’t want to be this way and i know the only way to stop this complaining is to change whatever it is that is bothering me. I think i am more motivated now to change things now that i have read this. I don’t want people to dislike me or not enjoy my company and reading this showed me that the people who tolerate my complaining have alot of patience and i see now that these people are growing tired of my complaining. I will do everything in my power to change myself and my situations instead of complaining. thank you to the author

  4. Hey, great blog. Connects perfectly with the message I’m sharing with my church tomorrow from Philippians 2 and Deuteronomy 1. Thanks for the great insights and thanks to ann for your honesty. I’ll be using your transparency in my message … thanks.

  5. I forgot to add – THANK YOU Andrew, for this wonderful blog post, your form of directness and for changing the negative moods from my own complaints and that of others. ;)

  6. Thank you very much for this wonderful post, I really like it. Just like you I really hate when people complain about their life. I hope that some people will realize that life is so beautiful.

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