How much do you give and how much should you get? How do you balance the two? You can’t give everything you have, and you can’t expect to get everything you need without effort. So, how do you balance the two sides of the spectrum and get yourself where you give and receive in a mutual way, in a way where you have optimum balance? People say giving is better than receiving, and others say receiving is better than giving. Which side to you lean on?
It’s one thing to be selfless and a whole other thing to be selfish. Sure, you could try and compromise. Give here, take there, etc. You could do that, but at certain times you’d be selfless and other times you’d be selfish. Is there a way to align yourself where you are both serving yourself and others harmoniously. Sure, there is, it’s just not an obvious answer. The key is to do something where it serves you well as well as serves others at the same time. You help yourself while you help others.
If that’s something to strive for, then I would encourage everyone to go for it. It’s a great balance. I can’t say I have achieved this balance yet, but I have heard from those who have and they feel at an amazing equilibrium. If you’re living in the real world, it may seem impossible to do this, but it’s possible…believe me.
I don’t know how high personal fulfillment is on your to-do list, but it is a number one priority in my life. I want to feel at peace, and I am getting better. Peace is the key here. To feel at peace is something I really enjoy. It may not happen as often as I want it to, but feeling at peace is something I love to embark on whenever I have time. I just wish I could do it in all situations, which is more along the vein of equanimity. But feeling fulfilled in all areas of life by aligning yourself so giving service to yourself is the same as giving service to others, then you will eventually reach this peace, this calm mountaintop among the tranquil valleys.
I have this space in my head, this location, this peaceful area, a beach, a wonderful beach, with a beach chair and a glass of water and a small table where I sometimes recede to when I need a break and this helps me get closer to peace. Closer to balance. Closer to eqanimity. I think we all want this sort of peace, but very few of us ever get it at all. The problem is most people can’t imagine what this peace would be like. The only way to imagine it is to get as peaceful as you possibly can, then imagine a place ten times more peaceful than that, then a place ten times more peaceful than that, and so on until you get to the edge of the universe and they take you away to the mental institution, just kidding.
Sidenote: I don’t know if this has ever happened to you, but I thought I would throw this in. I have these experiences sometimes, where I am deep in thought and I lose all awareness of the world around me. I totally blank out everything except exactly the thoughts I am focusing on at that moment. I don’t know who I am, where I am, what is going on around me. I just am. Then, I realize that I am away, I am not where I am supposed to be, that I am not in my body, but off somewhere else, and as soon as I realize that, I am back into awareness. It is a great state to be in, but it can be very disorienting when you come back. But the journey back is worth it in the long run. I have never done astral travel, so I do not know what it is like, but I am sure this is somewhat similar. It’s kind of like, “The lights are on, but no one’s home.” It’s like an old school friend of mine who said when the teacher asked if he was here, “Not mentally. I’m in the Bahamas today.” I’d like to visit my private beach again soon. Find your own private beach. It will be worth it.
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Finding your own private place to be alone and renew is very special. Many people share your quest for inner balance. It’s reassuring to discover a higher level of awareness. You tap into or receive guidance for resolving problems. You have the ability to become one with your soul, to think or not to think, to transcend all that you know, and learn new things.
Wayne W. Dyer wrote a book called “There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem.” He describes the Spirit as ‘that which we can’t validate with our senses. Like the wind we feel but cannot see.” Where you seek to create peace and fulfillment, simply follow three basic steps: recognize the issue, realize its true significance, and revere Higher Forces that will assist you. The higher energy of spirit will enable you to reframe situations so you no longer see them as problems. According to Dyer, ‘the spiritual’ is defined by how you think and feel, whatever draws your mind to focus inward. At levels of spiritual consciousness, we’re linked to everyone & everything.
I liked your analogy… of the beach. I think peace, inner peace, is like church or sanctuary. it’s personal. Somewhere that is safe. Calm.
As far as the giving or receiving… Both are pleasurable. But I mentally try and program myself to do at least five random acts of kindness a day (feed someone’s expired parking meter, let someone in ahead of me on the highway, compliment and old woman on her hair, etc.). Kind of like the “pay it forward”. They are small things, but I love the energy it creates.
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